Obituary: Shabbat 24th Tishrei
Sadly, my dear Mother-in-law. passed away in Johannesburg
South Africa on this Shabbat 24th Tishrei. Denise's mother,
Rene ( Rivka Rochel bat Tzvi Hirsch) was a very special lady
and I will miss her very much. as of course will all her
daughters and sons-in-law grand-children and
great-grand-children. She dedicated her life to her family
and to those less fortunate than she, but above all, she
never judged anyone and saw good in all.
She saw the role she had to play and she and members of her
family were active in helping the disenfranchised of South
Africa. Although never outspoken, she went quietly about
her task with patience, dignity and kindness.
May Her Dear Soul Rest In Peace
Philip, Denise and Daniel
October 2010, Glasgow
August 2011:
from left to right Elena(Elinas' mother) Denise, Philip,
Ilya (Elinas' Father) Diana(Ilyas' second wife) Daniel and
Elina
My son Daniel has just got engaged to Elina and this was the
first time that the families had met each other
26th September
2011
With the Rugby World Cup coming up in New Zealand,
the Olympics in the UK, the Soccer World Cup
qualifying rounds, needless to say, most wives,
fiancees and girl friends will be banished from the
big Plasma 3D TV with Stereophonic sound and sent to
the small room with the 15" black and white to watch
either Oprah Winfrey, Big Brother or some other
meaningless reality show, whilst the males watch
grown men kicking a ball around whilst getting the
their teeth knocked out and their legs kicked from
under them.
Now I ask you, who is more intelligent. So I expect
a lot of replies defending your position on the
above. No doubt, our South African family members
will support the gentle, touching and loving game of
Rugby, yah, well, no, fine, as will our Argentinian
and Uruguayan family, whilst our English and
Scottish family will support the delightful, fair,
intellectual players of Soccer. The American side of
the family hasn't a clue about Rugby or Soccer, but
they do have a game called football, where even if
one does not handle the ball, he can be knocked to
hell and back by a 6'4" linebacker weighing 240lbs
and carrying another 25lbs of leather shoulder
padding. Then again, we have the Canadian family
members, who don't play anything except Ice Hockey
and where if they can't find a Hockey Puck, they
just play with someones head they just knocked off
with a Hockey Stick
Ah, the joys of being Jewish, where the worst can
happen is to get pins and needles in your tuchas
(behind) whilst playing Bridge, Kaluki (40down),
Clabiash, Peenuckle or Chess.
And on that note, I wish you all a safe, wonderfully
joyous and loving Shabbat.
Philip, Denise, Daniel and Elina
26th August 2011
I have decided to come clean on my religious beliefs.
I go to Shul (Synagogue) regularly, every Shabbat and every
High Holiday, I wear Teffilim (Phylacteries: that's the
little black boxes you see on the forehead and arm of Jewish
men at prayer during the week).
My Tallit (Prayer Shawl) is old and covers my head and
shoulders and is very heavy with the tradition and guilt of
thousands of years of persecution and when I see the
photographs of Jews murdered in their Prayer Shawls during
the Pogroms in Russia or Lithuania or in Poland and in many
other countries, then it is good enough for me to wear it in
their name and not necessarily G-ds.
And so to the reason I am coming clean is as follows. I am
convinced about the tradition, but not so about the Dogma
and that is the riddle wrapped in the enigma.
I am so happy about the tradition because it's more about
love, happiness, warmth and Roast Chicken (Here I go with
the chicken again), whereas, the Dogma is about destroyed
temples, sacrifices, wandering in the desert for more than
40 years and then being handed in tablet format (not PDF) a
bunch of commandments about, thou shalt not do this or that,
altogether unhappy events, not all, but most.
So, as I sit in my usual seat, trying to figure all this
out, gold is now $1850 an ounce, Greece has gone Mechula
(Bankrupt), riots in London, fighting in Lybia, massacres in
Syria, starvation and drought in Africa and Footballers
earning £300 thousand a week, maybe it's not a bad idea
wearing the Prayer Shawl and Teffilim and forgetting this
Meshugga(crazy) world we are in for a few hours every day.
Therefore, on a Shabbat as this, take time to look at the
peace you have with your family around you, the love you
share, and the Roast Chicken (again)
I wish all of you good health and joy
Shabbat Shalom
Philip, Denise, Daniel and Elina
July 2011
My
Zaide*, my dearest Zaide,
I loved you, still do, still cry unashamedly every now and
then thinking of you. Never was scared with you around,
certainly got scared when you weren't.
I never asked you about your more than 70 years marriage
with Bobba, I just remember how dignified you were at her
passing, standing straight and tall, with only the tears
running down your face suggesting any pain. She loved your
children and grandchildren, Zaide, kept them warm, well fed
and clean and that is almost all a man wants from his wife,
the fact that you did a lot of the cooking would circumvent
anyone remarking that you were a little chauvinistic, a
little like most of the Coussin/Coussins /Cussin men. I too
miss her so very much. When she would wrap her arms around
me and whisper "Feivele mein Feivele, Dof gayin meshugga
ober dir."*
I am writing this Zaide, to tell you, we do not and will not
forget you and in essence, to remind your grandchildren,
great grandchildren, great-great grandchildren, that nothing
lasts forever and to talk to their grandpas and grandmas,
listen to them and above all love them.
My brother Stanley and I always talk about our holidays with
you and Bobba, be it on cruise ships or in Switzerland,
always trying to educate us on the better things in life and
how to dress British and think Yiddish ha ha. You were
always about family, especially your brothers, Morris and
Abraham (Shai) your nieces and nephews I remember how close
you were to your sons, and daughters.
Craig, the great- grandson of your brother Abraham has a
special place in his heart for his family and keeps the
family tree and all its progeny alive with memories of those
we have lost along the way.
So and on behalf of you, Zaide and Bobba, (Hyman and Annie )
Abraham and Millie, Morris and Bessie. Odie and Abraham, to
all of us, from you and your children, a hearty
L'Chaim*
Shabbat Shalom
Philip, Denise, Mark, Darren, Daniel and Elina
* Zaide= Grandpa
* Bobba= Grandma
* Feivel= Philip
* Dof gayin meshugga ober dir= I am crazy for you
*L'Chaim= To life
A new daughter, Emma, was born to Gari and Ina Coussins, Pretoria South
Africa on February 5th 2011. Here is Papa Raymond with his new
granddaughter, Emma is the new sister to Sarah.
Gari has a sister Dani who is married to Justin Hervey in Capetown and
they have two children Isla and Jack
Raymond with granddaughters Emma and Sarah and
Dad Gari-exhausted.
Mazeltov to the South African Coussins and Herveys
Craig's granddaughters visited him at the end of December 2010:
Hannah(5) Jessica (3) and Sophie who was born in October.
UPDATE: September 2010
click for picture to print out
Craig and
Svetlana Coussins had the pleasure of meeting Feival's
brother Stanley and his lovely wife Jani. They were on their
way to their see their new grandchild in Glastonbury
Craig and Svieta welcomed
Philip and Stanley Morrison to their home Sept 2010. Stanly
and wife Janie live in Vancouver and visited Feival &Denise
Jani
Morrison, wife of Stanley, brother of Feival with her fifth
grandchild. The Baby’s name is Oren Fionn Mehhan
and is the
child of Micheal and Gali who live in Glastonbury UK
Mazeltov to the whole family from all of us
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things to help make your life worth living:
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and
parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their
journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God
never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is
up to you and no one else
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no
for an answer...
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie..
Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22.. Over prepare, then go with the flow
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will
this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business..
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did
or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd
grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.....
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
Friends are the family that we choose for ourselves
Regina Brett, 90 years old, and journalist at The
Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.
My grandfather is Aizekas Mendelsonas,
(Isaac Mendelson) he is Jewish and lived in Zagare for most
of his life, probably you heard about him or even met him.
Unfortunately due to age and not so strong health he
currently lives in Vilnius.I am also living in Vilnius. Here
is some pictures from Zagare which I tooklast summer:
Best wishes,Tomas Mendelsonas (Mendelson)
thanks for the message about your grandfather. I
first met him in 1994, and again on two other
visits. when i asked him if he knew my father's
cousin, Grunjia Kantor, he had tears in his eyes,
they grew up together. he showed me where they had
lived, and he was pleased to know that she was
still alive ( she died a year ago in Israel) at
that time. He told me the story of how he escaped on
his bicycle aged 16, when the killing started, and
joined the Red Army, then showed his uniform and
medals. The extraordinary story of how he found the
man ( who had been at school with him) who had
killed your family and what he then did to the man.
We spent almost a day with him and your
grandmother, and I have a lot of what he told us on
video. He is a true hero of the Holocaust.
Please give my my best wishes, our guide was Chaim Bargman.
If he remembers me.
Saul issroff
We are also grateful to Mike Cave who visited Zagare and
Rigain 2004 for his photographs which we have made into a slide
show here:
Mike will soon comment on his visit:
Welcome to the Cussin, Coussin, Coussins, Morrison, Racusin,
Rakusin and
related family website
Check out the archive file here where all your favourite items,
humorous and informative are stored safely
Abe
and brother Hyman Cussin
Bother Morris Cussin and wife Betsy
Franji and her father Danny Coussin;
Craigs GFLouis's bro'
Tommy was Danny's father
Anna Cussin
Photo Links General Family Pix 1879-2010
Click for full size image with descriptions on most pix
Ray
Coussins Marlyn Benson and Feival Feival at Jewish Archives Ricky and Craig Coussins Abrahams great
grandsons and his sister Denise Abe's GGdaughter along with Ricky and
wife's Sharons
Children, visited us-in Edinburgh. Marlyn is also Abe's GGD, Feival
is Abe's brother Hyman's grandson
The Family Tree for Rakusin
dating from the 17th Century
The Rakusins/Cussins came to the UK
and practiced their art of Slipper
making. They were Zapushniks.
It was because of
Feival Morrison
remembering his visit to Morris
Cussin's workshop in the basement
of his home in Leeds that brought
us together with his family.
Shoemakers working in Leeds around 1920
And a perfect example of history repeating
itself is in Craig's profession as a Dance Shoe
maker, essentially a Zapushnik, a shoemaker
Craig in his workshop 1995
Abraham , Morris and Hyman Cussins
were shoemakers and repairers,
Zapushniks. When they first came to
the UK from Lithuania They also worked
in tailoring and two of them ran Fruit
and Veg Stalls in the Glasgow
Gallowgate.
Just to explain the name differences.
We had emigrated to the
UK as Rakusin.
Changed that to Cusin which did not look
good in the UK so we changed this to
Cussin and in Abrahams branch to Cussins,
Coussin and Coussins.
They had their own
personal reasons.
One reason was that because of some anti
Semitic feelings from some areas of the population
in Scotland we may have tried to anglicise our
name to fit into what had become our home.
In the case of Philips Morrison's Dad he
changed from Cussin to Morrison. In the Leeds
branch however, and because there was a large
Jewish community there, in the case of some
family members the name stayed Rakusin as
well as Cussins.
Common ancestry:
We will of course be to find a common
ancestry
by using the abilities of genealogists and Len
Yodaiken has sent us a chart with a common
ancestor to the Rakusin family now living in
South Africa. Its a PDF File and can be viewed
by downloading the free reader from Acrobat
PDF Reader.
I decided that the old website
www.itsourfamily.co.uk
is difficult and while full of features it can be difficult to
navigate. I have commissioned the original designer to
come up with an alternative site and one that is easy to
navigate with trees that are easy to read and download.
Unfortunately this will take time but hopefully will be
completed by mid 2009. Meantime the site is still there
and access to the pages should now be clear of restrictions.
Philip has come up with a great idea and that is to chart
down the three brothers from Abraham, Hyman and Morris
Cussin, adding photographs of family members at each stage
and the sound bites and videos for each family member as
we come into the latter part of the 20th century. Fortunately
my father, Jack, was a cine photographer and he took
films of most of his family to Louis and Leba (Rebecca)
his parents to cousins and other relatives which is a
blessing for their families as well. What we may find is
that other family members took cine film , audio tape or
videos as well as the century progressed and we can add
these in.
I walked into the movie theatre, with no expectations for the film I
was about to witness, "Everything is Illuminated". I walked out with a
joy I have barely come to feel with American films. The directorial
debut of actor, Leiv Schreiber, the film follows a man on his journey
through the past, accompanied by an eccentric group including a
brake-dancing barely English-speaking punk from the Ukraine, his
grandfather who believes he is blind, and their crazy dog. The first
half of the film is funny and smart with an extremely European flavour
in the usage of small but wonderful characters, while the second half of
the film descends into a sombre story of discovery and the holocaust.
This little movie brings out so many emotions, and so many colours, with
such a wonderful conclusion and is more than just a story of
illumination, but also of relationships and connections. The acting is
incredibly powerful, the story mysterious and interesting, and the
artistic appeal of the cinematography, to die for. With some brilliant
and absolutely touching scenes "Everything is Illuminated" managed to
capture my heart.
http://www.coussins.org/Gindel.htm
Gabriel is the grandson of Seine Murnik younger
sister of Abrahams wife Millie. Abraham Meir Murnik married Ode Chase
Rakuzin and who we think was sister to Abraham: They had 3(?) daughters
known. One was Seine Murnikaite whose grandson is Gabriel Gindel who lives
in Uruguay and Argentina.
June 13th 2010 New family member
:
This is the brother of Rebbecca Murnik, Leopoldo Murnik.
He and his wife Lilian live in Israel. Leopoldo is
the son of Motl, the eldest brother of Gabriel's grandma
Seine Murnik. Leopoldo is therefore grandson of Ode
Rakuzim. He and Rebbecca are therefore cousins to
Gabriel's mother Sara.
Gabriel Gindel , Argentina
http://www.coussins.org/leeds.htm
Rakusins Leeds. The Rakusin family is a well established group based in
Leeds and to whom we have a family connection. Many famous names are
connected to this tree including Lloyd Rakusin of the Rakusin Matzoth firm
and Manny Cussins. This page is being built but here is some info and a
partial tree. Updated information from Steven Moore
http://www.coussins.org/Family/dna.htm
This illustrates the DNA and Haplogroups of the family and the world
spread of different DNA groups associated with Jewish people including
us.
Before the setting up of the
JAO, Jews settled throughout areas of
inhabitable Siberia. Here is further information
NEW BELOW
This many-layered study accounts the proud history and tragic
destruction of the Jews of Lithuania. In Zhager, a small town on the
Lithuanian-Latvian Border, well over 3000 Jewish men, women and children
were massacred on 2 October 1941 by the Nazis and their collaborators.
They lie in a mass grave in Naryshkin Park, the heart of the Shtetls,
where lovers once walked. Last Walk in Naryshkin Park is the story of
Rose Zwi's quest to discover the fate of her father's family who
perished in the holocaust. Moving, passionate, thought provoking. More
than a family history, more than an account of a massacre, Last Walk in
Naryshkin Park asks questions which resonate from 1940s Lithuania to
Cambodia, Bosnia, Rwanda.Pub: 1997 www.amazion.co.uk &
www.amazon.com
other woderful stories and interesting titles at these links
Comment: sent to Cliff
Marks October 2009
When my son and I visited Zagare in 2005 (my
grandfather was born there - our family name was then Kussman - we were
shown around the cemeteries by a girl who was working as a
volunteer for the charity Lithuania Link. I was appalled by the state of
both cemeteries - the grass looked as though it had not been cut for
eons. I asked the volunteer why and she said it was probably the cost,
so I asked her to find out from the town council what it would cost to
cut the grass in both cemeteries and then to do the same every few
months. My idea was that I would help with the cost, and I would then
contact the rabbi in Vilnius (I believe he is an American) and suggest
that a scheme be started throughout Lithuania to do the same thing, with
descendants of Lithuanian Jews providing the funding.
I heard nothing back from the volunteer so I asked again, and was told
that th council was not interested in the idea.
Is there any way of trying to approach the council again?
A Jewish Primer-This site gives
information on your Jewish background.
There are family members in America and we
hope to get information on this at a later date
A great facility to download a small programme that reminds you about
the Jewish Holidays and dates applicable in your own country.
http://www.gro-scotland.gov.uk/famrec/bdm.html
You can order certificates here for a fee.
Make sure that you have as much information as possible and a credit or
debit card for payment-its very cheap and easy to use. Closed files can
be opened on request from a relative
The new website is under construction but here
is the base from which we started
Yes its a lot of work but if someone does not do this when
there are people like myself to bring this together then the information
will once more be lost in the mists of time. Now that we have children and
some have grandchildren , I felt that spending the time and money doing this
for the good of the family was a worthwhile venture. I hope that I am not
wrong and that the family will support the project by sending in
photographs, information and links to what we are all about..
You can also confirm to Philip and myself that we are doing the right
thing by telling us as no input is depressing.
Louis Coussins family: Features of the new site will
be film of the family, recordings of their voices, including Grandma
Rebecca-Leba and Pappa-Louis -Libish, and Jack and Sarah. The early
musical recordings of Raymond will also be on the site along with extracts
from his later work.
craig.coussins@btinternet.com
"our family website is not to praise the ashes of the departed but to
preserve their fire by illuminating our future"-CC
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Life's journey is not to arrive safely in a well preserved
body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out,
shouting
"dear lord..what a ride!"